Thank you for all the replies! I'm always pleasantly surprised by the feedback I get from this forum
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Maybe you need less coddling now and more pushing.
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That's exactly what I need! I've even told her that I want to be challenged, but she doesn't seem to get that, or maybe she doesn't know how to push me further? I don't know, but it's really frustrating!
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What is her background? Her degree? Experience?
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She's a LCSW. She's older-ish (maybe late-50s, early 60s), and has worked in a variety of settings, so she has experience. I don't know why I feel like she's not as skilled. I guess it's because I've had other therapists (in a different area) who have really "gotten" it and are more "sharp" (for lack of a better word).
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You could either discuss with her that you feel you need to go in a different direction and ask if she could go there with you or just switch therapists. I know for me, the thought of "starting over" and spewing out all the stuff I already have to her to someone else is a tough one, but might be what I need. Best of luck to you!
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I'm sorry you're facing a similar issue. Yea, the idea of "starting over" is so overwhelming for me, especially because it was SO hard to find someone who takes my insurance and isn't scared off by my long history of hospitalizations and such. Good luck to you too!
If yours actually pushes you and challenges you, then YES PLEASE!
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I don't think it's good to feel talking to T as a good friend or trusted adult.
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I definitely agree! I am very grateful that I have many good friends in my life. It's so frustrating that I'm paying a professional to do the same thing that my friends can do
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I was wrong about what I wanted from T. Thought I wanted structure and questions but I don't. However after a year I think you can know what you want.
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That's a good point. When I was first looking for a therapist, I know I needed someone who is warm and validating (I've had therapists who pretty much told me that I'm lying and saying things just for attention). But now I don't know if those 2 traits are enough in a therapist.