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Originally Posted by LearningMe01
More specifically, how did you get over it? My particular brand of transference is Def. of the romantic nature. It's really driving me crazy and I can't shake it. My T will be leaving before too long, it's bad enough that I'm going to have to grieve the loss of someone who has helped me SO incredibly much (quite a painful situation that I am not looking forward to) I would really rather the rest of my sessions not be "tainted" by my transference issues.
Talking to the T about it isn't an option for me (long story , just please trust me on this one)
Also, while I have you here....for those of you who lost a therapist they were really close with...how long did the grieving process last? Any tips or tricks on how to make it a little easier on myself? I know myself too well, and I know it's going to be a horrid situation for me - at least for a little while.
Thanks in advance for any input.
P.S. I Could totally use a hug too  |
Hi, I just read your post, and felt it would be good to share, as you asked, "of those of you who lost a therapist"
Well, I had transference towards my therapist, in the summer of last year. I did have an awful time, you can read on my post if you like to know the whole story. I wanted him to NOT abandon me, as I feared this for nearly four months! Unfortunatly, he DID abandon me, therefore it was painfull. But thanks to God! I am okay now, and I feel nothing towards him but annoyance at how he didnt even email be back to just say, dont worry, I understand, I just wanted him to understand I was so embarrased about all these feelings I had and how important I had made him in my life.
I wished now, that I had listened to my husband and daughters, that he was "just a guy" and that I should not have put my complete trust in him, as he couldnt deal with me. I am so happy now, that the awful time is behind me., And I hope and pray that you will believe me, that you WILL get over your transference feelings. Wish you much happiness.
