Thanks to all who provided their opinions...at least I know now that I'm not crazy. OK he told me that the balance on his credit card is 14K. I cried for an hour and told him to leave for the night. He cut up his credit card and told me that he would sell his personal things to pay it off (I'm not sure what to believe any more). I'm glad that at least I know some of the story but am very angry that he told me a year ago that the balance at that time was almost paid off.
I don't know what to do.....