I have totally given up on relationships. I was married for 16 yrs and now divorced for 5 yet he is worse now than when we were married as far as being possessive, obsessive and just plain crazy I think. So I question my judgement in men and will never let myself get involved with someone again to get my heart ripped out and stomped on and manipulated and on and on and on........I'm sure there are very happy relationships out there and many, many good men that treat women with respect and love but just can't imagine what circumstance would ever cause me to get involved again. I know at 41yrs old that may mean a very long time alone but........oh, well.