I'm here too. Just caught up with the reading.

As for the discussion of wines last night, I am not much of a wine drinker...partly because I don't drink much anyway...partly because I start to wheeze pretty badly and feel lousy after drinking even a tiny bit of wine (mostly red wine, I think). Anyway after a few times of dealing with that, I decided that I am not a wine drinker

I hope that you do go to T this week (granite). At least then you will be able to try to talk to T and have her clarify what she meant.