I'm 29 and in a loyal, committed relationship with my boyfriend. We recently moved in together about 3 months ago. I moved out of my homestate to be with him. My boyfriend is an educated, funny, intelligent, loving, good natured guy - however - he lives with high levels of anxiety. He sees therapists, takes medication, keeps a journal and finds other ways to manage his anxiety. I'm empathetic about his struggle because I have a couple mental health issues of my own. We love each other deeply and want to get married in the next couple years, but his anxiety has gotten to a point where he can't perform sexually. He may become aroused, but immediately loses the erection within minutes. This has caused him A LOT of shame and embarrassment and me a lot of frustration. We've tried to "spice" things up, tried loosening up with drinks, even porn...but he just can't do it. I consider myself to be a highly sexual person and would like to have sex daily. We're at a point where we can have sex maybe once every 2-3 weeks. I'm afraid...we're just beginning our life together but I'm not sure this is going to work if we can't resolve it. I have to put a huge part of who I am on the backburner. Even though I realize this is an anxiety issue it's difficult to not take it personal when I touch his erection and he loses it a minute later. We knew this to occasionally happen in the beginning of our nearly 2 year relationship, but now it's gotten to an unbearable point and we're losing our passion and intimacy. What should we do? What outreach is there for men with performance anxiety issues?