I went through a big discussion with my T about hugs a couple years ago. I asked her if I could hug her and she said yes and when I got up I walked right by her. I felt like I was being manipulative as I really wanted her to hug me and I felt like I wasn't being honest. She then at the next session said hugs were out of the question for all clients Fast forward to the end of my therapy experience with her and I was crying at the appointment because it was goodbye. She then asked me if I was ready for the hug I had been waiting for. Since that day I have started therapy with her again and one time I asked her for a hug and another time I didn't ask I just gave her one. It was during the time that I had my breakdown in her office and the time right before I went into the outpatient program. She hugged me and told me it was going to be alright. I needed that. I was never hugged by my mother. She never gave me comfort ever. As a result I'm not a 'hug type' person however I want to be and it feels awkward at the same time. To hug someone is to put my guard down and that's really hard. The only people I can hug without hesitation is my children, my husband, my niece and nephew, my FIL and my T.