I was shopping for my birthday Friday at my current favorite store, Office Depot, and my husband sat down to take a call from our son. His language was not appropriate for a store and this was supposed to be a happy day so I took the phone and spoke to my son. No firm plans had been made in the 8 weeks since FDIL and her mother took over. Her mother decided that they would be married on the 20th. This woman never listens! My son would be on a plane back to his base on the 20th! He could not get married then!!!!

I told my son that I would have a wedding planned by Monday. That there would be a wedding on the 14th. If FDIL wanted to get married she could show up or we'd just have one hell of a send off party for him. When we got home I called FDIL. I was kind but I let her know in no uncertain terms that we had to get on the ball here. If her Pastor was unable to marry them on the 14th, then they would be married by a JOP at the reception venue. She really wanted to be married in her church, which I totally understand and support, but she had not even spoken to her Pastor yet!!!!

I gave her until Sunday evening to find out if her Pastor was able to marry them. Time was slipping away. They took over the plans for this wedding in mid January. As it is, I do not know if my brother will be able to attend now because the dates have changed many many times. His wife had her calander cleared in the beginning, but since it kept changing... well who knows. People need to get time off and make travel arrangements and the wedding was only a couple of weeks away. I gave her plans A, B, and C. All included the same caterer so I gave her a copy of the menu choices and let her decide the menu. It is her wedding after all.

Her Pastor can marry them on that day. We have the venue and meal planned out, deposits paid. Today we got the flowers ordered and gave her cake choices. I was a little put out when she was discussing decorations, the party planner did not have her color choice. Um, we are doing this by the seat of our pants here. We don't have time to order anything! The party planner luckily came up with a solution, white linens, with her color of ribbons around the decorations etc.

Her mother was being ... difficult. She was not helping the girl with anything, but definately had ideas on what SHE wanted. Too bad! Suck it up. You had two months to get something moving, and did nothing. Weddings don't just happen overnight! They waited so long that we do not have the three day block for the venue to decorate, so we must rely on the party planner to do it after the party scheduled there Saturday.

So the wedding is on, my son is less stressed. I am less stressed, and the Bride to be is happy as well. Her mother is just going to have to eat cake. (Which she will not have a choice in either!)