thanks all..it makes sense. but I think what I mean is, is there some clues or vibes gay people, bi, lesbians give off to the outside world that tells people.."Interested in same gender" when you dont open your mouth to tell them...I mean, Im also asking because people, even some who dont know me well, just assume Im lesbian...it gets annoying because I attract all kinds of attention- like random straight women inbetween boyfriends looking for female love.. I look and dress femininely but have some tomboyish traits. Im not masculine but not a girly girl either and have been told by both sexes I am attractive so I think it confuses people.