at the MHC I went to, we talked about hugs and how it was for us and for them. One I thought felt uncomfortable but continued to give hugs when asked (male). Female was ok with hugs, maybe that we are both female. The third liked hugs too much - so much that he tried to do more and i later learned he was a sex abuser. He's gone.

Looking back I realize I was extremely vulnerable needing touch so much. Someone said in this thread about their insiders needing to be touched. Thinking about it, that is exactly how I felt, like a small child needing to be held, just wanting to feel safe and cared for. I always felt embarrassed about this need expecially with the first T because it was like he was embarrassed even though he said he wasn't. It always felt like hugs could be taken away at any moment, much like it was growing up. Anyways maybe it would have been better to not hug then.

If I had a T again and felt comfortable with hugs I'd probably ask for that. It helps to understand about the insiders though. That makes so much sense. Thanks!