Hi Rozzo ~ I'm alot like you, in that I HATE confrontation, and I usually am known to keep the peace at all costs. I can't stand raised voices, or arguing and that comes from the way I was brought up. My parents fought ALL the time, and many of those fights were physical. So if anytime things get noisy, I retreat to my room, and stay there. It could even be the TV set that is too loud.

But in your case, you really DO need to find the courage to stand up for yourself. You have been cheated out of a LARGE sum of money, and you shouldn't have to struggle because your mother is either selfish or very forgetful! Regardless of what it is, you might just "nicely" remind her that 1/2 of that $200,000 is YOURS and you need it NOW. And would she please write you a check for it at her earliest convenience -- and you'll be over at such and such a date to pick it up. Don't just ask for the $25,000 -- ask for the WHOLE AMOUNT!!! Afterall, you're entitled to one half, correct? Then get it ALL. If you don't get it all, you'll have to go thru this again!

You don't need to accept any excuses. If it is invested, then she needs to SELL the investments in order for you to get your one half. That's all.

I'm sorry you two don't get along very well, and this might not help matters any, but money never does help. Just get what's coming to you!! This is alot of money we're talking about and you're entitled to it.

So just be STRONG. You're going to have to be. I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee