No hugs for me. He is, in general, very comfortable with hugs. There was a time in therapy when I very much wanted to be held. My T never talked about it in terms of boundaries which feels to me like a concern with roles and responsibilities.

We talked about it in terms of its potential to bring up feelings that could be confusing for me and so further complicating a situation in which I was already trying to cope with overwhelming emotions. We talked about other ways he could help me to feel held and to meet those needs for security and wholeness.

It was the right decision to make at the time.