What do you do when you simply cannot stay emotionally detatched from it anymore. I have been trying quite hard to remain neutral as possible and just stay out of any arguments or other drama...while trying to keep a civil relationship with everyone even my moms boyfriend who I really don't get along with but can still be civil with.

But there are these things called emotions, my mom and brother got in an argument last night yet again over my mom accusing my brother of doing 'nothing' and crticizing him for not having a life goal and a career at 18...and I am angry about some things my mom said I've just had it because I have seen for myself that he is trying to find work, he's talked to me about it being frustrating he hasn't found anything yet. then she gets on him about never doing anything, and he's already had 2 jobs he had to quit due to a messed up back she likes to ignore that he has. I mean she pretty much wants him to just be where she wants him to be in life because she didn't make it there.....well that is not his job. I just don't see how to be civil with her and keep from getting kicked out or something myself when I disagree with her treatment of my brother in almost every aspect.

Thing is if I openly disagree, then her supportive act towards me will be revoked and not sure I can handle the stress of having her as an obstacle rather than a supporter....it's just how she is, but I can't live my life trying to make her happy as its impossible to even make her that way. So do I stand up and say something or should I just continue trying to ignore it, stay perfectly civil and such till I find another living situation.......except then I get to miss all the cats I've gotten attatched to probably....its all just very frustrating I suppose. Maybe I should start reading up on how to deal with a narcissist, or something.