compromising with parts. is different than compromising them. compromising with them is seeing if the outside can help the insider feel more safe to talk about it. it can be making a safe plan to talk so you and her know its ok to talk abou it. It can be making a plan about how to talk about it - writing, drawing, talking out loud, whispering it, then saying it a little louder till it feels safe enough. some people like to wear a mask while talking so it isn't them saying it, those are just some ideas I heard about. but the important thing is to find a way to talk so it isn't so overwhelming. also talking with t about how they can help you if you do get overwhelmed. what you and rachel can both agree to to make it easier. wish you well.