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Originally Posted by Mandrec
Yes!  We did have sex the first year or so, but not the last 2-3. For me I think sex becomes an issue when I start to bond emotionally. He understands and says he'd rather be with me and not have sex than be with someone else, even if it's for life. They're not less sex obsessed here (I've never been to the U.S. myself though), but most people are more liberal. Maybe they can obsess less about it because their religion and values are less sexually frustrating. 
Yeah, haha!  I thought I was the only one my age still doing that. I can endure short kisses, not long ones. |
Sorry about making assumptions about your country...and yes, even if you're not religious, you're affected by religion and values in the U.S. I don't know if it makes a relevant difference because there are plenty of Americans who are not bothered at all by these things, so it seems that culture is irrelevant.
And also, you were able to have sex at first and then it became a problem? I think I would find myself in the opposite—it would be a problem at first and if I could work through it, then things would work out. But I can't seem to bond emotionally, let alone date or have any opportunity to experience anything sexual (even kissing and everything that would inevitably lead up to sex) unless I were to just be with a stranger or some random person which is something that I'm NOT interested in. I don't think I would ever be comfortable without a strong emotional bond. So without the ability to create such bonds, I'm going to be a virgin for life.