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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
Sorry about making assumptions about your country...and yes, even if you're not religious, you're affected by religion and values in the U.S. I don't know if it makes a relevant difference because there are plenty of Americans who are not bothered at all by these things, so it seems that culture is irrelevant.
And also, you were able to have sex at first and then it became a problem? I think I would find myself in the opposite—it would be a problem at first and if I could work through it, then things would work out. But I can't seem to bond emotionally, let alone date or have any opportunity to experience anything sexual (even kissing and everything that would inevitably lead up to sex) unless I were to just be with a stranger or some random person which is something that I'm NOT interested in. I don't think I would ever be comfortable without a strong emotional bond. So without the ability to create such bonds, I'm going to be a virgin for life.
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I don't mind.
I think the culture that affects you is the culture that surrounds you, and you can't escape that effect. I'm sure you can find someone who isn't affected by this culture or doesn't let it ruin a potentially good relationship!
It might be that we have similar issues despite the differences. I'm almost also unable to bond with people emotionally. I bond half-way, sort of. When it becomes too close I shut down. I feel much empathy, but I don't care much more about my friends than I care about strangers (although I'm very loyal). Eventually people become closer to me than I am to them, with one exception I think. You need to stay positive about your future though. At least to the extent that you feel you can, realistically. I don't know you, but I find it hard to believe that you will never be able to date or experience something sexual with someone who isn't a stranger. It may take years, but I do think that if you give it time and effort this is something that can be resolved. Then again, I don't know you or what your mental health issues are.
Do you have an emotional bond with your parents?