Again, i feel so guilty for complaining about my divorce situation, as in the end we will be friends, which we never really had the opportunity to even know each other on a friend to friend basis. i know deep in my heart my soon to be ex, would never turn my daughter against me, nor would i do the same about him.
I f you read story under the soon to be be divorced title bygloobylube is my handle), you will get the whole picture, its a strange and crazy divorce, but by no means a harsh and derailing one.
Although I am still very sad and devastated, and heartbroken still anyway, Even tho i consented willingly to divorce because i knew in my heart was correct decision.
But no one like to be the dumpee in the relationship, he unfortunately beat me to the punch, so that leaves my ego and self esteem at an all time low these days.
I have a 13 year old daughter who will be in my custody solely once May 20th arrives, we will be living in a decent mobile home that sits on an acre of land, so much elbow room, but we do not plan on being there more than six months, all of us ex, and son will live in ex's new house, and daughter and i in mobile home, til i hopefully get approved for ssi, as i fight physical ailments as well a mental ones as well, and with a good attorney, I fully expect them to approve me with at least three different doctors backing me up.
And I completely expect my ex to be supportive of my decisions and back them up with me and my daughter.

I am facing the reality that i likely have MS, as I have presented on and of for 25 years with minor symptoms, which has progressed quite rapidly in the last few years. There is not a symptom of it that i don't have, it may not show in my brain as i had MRI in 04, but that was /o contrast, and to be more conclusive, they will likely to a spinal tap on me to verify, I don't know really what an MS dx will really do for me, as i am already on every single medication a person with MS would be on, so not much more they can due for me except secure me a strong chance of obtaining disability, so i will be able to support myself, as i have not worked since 05, and the job prior to that, was an at home job( i actually worked 4 jobs at one time worked from home, also worked at church earning money teaching the children about God ans so forth, and from home was making OK money soliciting for the American Kidney Fund soliciting household items or clothing to be shipped to thrift stores and such, hopefully profits were going into research for kidney failure patients, an lastly i was working a local gym baby sitting children with occasionally working the front desk, The at home work was at your on pace job, I made customer service follow up calls to service customers, and half the time, i was laying in my bed with back propped up against pillows making my calls, while folding laundry etc. That was the ideal job, but had no insurance, its a necessity i have some type of health coverage to maintain any quality of life.
So I am strongly hoping i can get the SSI, especially with the doctors backing me up, as i see no other viable way to earn money, as i void at last 6 times an hour. i cant sit for more than 20 minutes without having to get up and walk around slowly for awhile, and my favorite ex keep saying work at Mc Donald's, I could def not stand in one position hours on end, i basically have to be in some type of constant motion to keep my muscles limber and not spastic and tight.
i have physical coming up Friday the 29th, therapist appt this Thursday, and psychiatric appt April 9th.
so will report back if anything i learned for coping skills later this week.
Also trying to get conclusive dx if MS or whatever my body is throwing at me, I see a neurologist on the 1st of may, divorce should be final by then, but he has agreed in divorce documents he would still provide me with insurance for a year.
My biggest fear is I am losing ability to drive my car, and that would put a severe
handicap on me at this time in my life. I also look forward in my future to possibly have to wear a bag ti urinate in probs continue to worsen.
Good Luck UM, you are in my thoughts and payers