I'm going through the same thing with my parents and friends. I went to a therapy session with my whole family where my brother pointed at me and said my behavior is a character issue, my dad told me that jail for my dui would maybe be painful enough so that I made better decisions, like I had the choice. I did very well with my family when I told them i was alcoholic and was turning my will over to god and all that, but when I was diagnosed as bi polar and shared it with them, all I got was "that's interesting" I'm having trouble with all this as you are, but I have moved from guilt to wanting people to understand. It makes me feel better when I get to tell people about my problem, that I've hurt.