I do see your point. Basically, prioritize and sequence. Forgive first, then identify next steps. That is a good plan.

Still, it is hard to forgive yourself theoretically, and taking the writing/communicating action without going through an unclear theoretical step might be OK. OP will forgive herself in the process of writing and putting thoughts on paper / organizing such thoughts would yield clarity by itself - writing in general yields clarity.

But theoretically, your point is great.