Thank you all so much for your advice and interest! I have tried "distancing" myself from her for several days and initially nothing happened. Now she has asked for more affection I.e.: hold her hand, rub her back or feet...just be more "hands on" in general. I think this is a good thing...I'm slightly hesitant tho. Part of me thinks she needs to be MORE affectionate with me! I mean, I'm not the one that cheated and showed that I was willing to break the commitment to each other we had made, that was her.
Sorry, kinda frustrated/angry right now bc she has bad to stay late for EVERY shift at work for the last week plus! I asked her to be off on time tonight no matter what bc I am off tomorrow and so is she and we are supposed to stay up late and hang out with each other. We have children, so time together is hard to come by. I have gone without sleep or other things I need to allow myself to be open to spend time with her. I usually repaid by her either going in to work or going to hang out with her friends.
Just feeling frustrated and kinda tired of feeling like her last priority. Well really not a priority of hers at all.