Thank you for the kind words, it helps to have some reinforcement.
I could go the lawyer route, but the entire ordeal seems like such an emotional task. I asked her today after a big blow out and she said she would give it to me, but it will drain her financially- which I don't logically think is possible. I'm willing to take it as I feel I'm entitled to it, and her saying it will put her in hardship is just her way of instilling guilt in me.
In some way I really hope she is lying.