I think ther is also a difference in dating someone and being friends. Myself I am straight foward and am clear about my intentions. The female friends that I have are strictly platonic. I would do more for a gf than I would have done for a friend. Now that I am married there is far more I would do for a spouse than a friend. I think friendship should be a platonic releationship. If you mix romance and flirting with friendship it puts a strain on it. That is just my 2 cents. Everyone is different and you have to find what works best for you. I hope things work out and rememeber to take care of yourself first.