wow, for sure your daughters will wnat to find out who you are and have a relationship at some point. I think its a natural process. You will always be their mom. My daughters are 17 and 18 and they are the reason that I have never followed through with suicide.
I dated a guy in university and his father commit suicide when Dave was 17yrs old. This event effected "David" severely, it affected his whole family. They fell apart. His mother would hide in the closet if I went to their house and his one brother had a mental illness seemed like schizophrenia and this death didnt help. His other brother moved to Toronto and wanted nothing to do with his family because the past was too painful. In the end I broke off with Dave because he needed me more than I needed him. I didnt want to be burdened with this death event , it frightened me and I left Dave. He was a nice guy and didnt deserve all of this.