I am not sure that's true. I do think that's your interpretation of what happened. The music I find a little confusing because I think that's unusual, but they play music in the background at restaurants where people are expected to talk, and I wonder if your perception that it was loud was skewed because it was jarring and unexpected. It does seem kind of consistent with some of her other things like reading to you, because there is some research that shows that classical music is calming neurologically for people. I think she had the music on because she was hoping that it would be soothing and that it might lessen the silence that you sometimes feel is pressure to talk.

Really, I could take everything you have talked about and interpret it as either neutral (like the chair in the corner-- it's unlikely that she moved it in anticipating your arrival, probably another client moved it to be further away from her (you've seen people post here that they like to be further from T) and she didn't notice or didn't think it needed to be moved anywhere else-- or as her trying to help you. Like the video on self care, I cannot imagine that something on this topic was comparing it to narcissism-- everything I've read about self care emphasizes that it is NOT narcissistic to take care of yourself.

The question is really whether you want to be there. If you don't, then you should quit and make it about you. If you do want to be there, go back and explain how you felt all these things were pushing you away so your T understands. She can't read your mind and your reactions any more than you can read hers. I think it would be really a big step forward if you can tell her these things, so you can really understand that she doesn't think horrible things about you.