Perna this is amazing advice! I think you have told me this before too but I never could hear it. It is my worst nightmare to know a situation is scary but to face it anyway, yet I do it all the time I just switch myself off so I don't learn anything from it so the next time around it is exactly the same! I know I'm scared of relationships and being close to people but I don't know why so I just berate myself...but maybe if I made myself be close to someone by saying something I didn't want to/was scared to say I'd figure out what specifically was the problem. The science experiment idea appeals to me. Thank you.

Wills - I am sorry I have no good advice or ideas but I do think that having your questions takes you halfway to the solution. I would be interested in hearing your answers as you gather them. Take care.