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Old Mar 21, 2013, 06:03 PM
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I made a similar post a long time ago, but I need to bring up the issue again because it's a new guy, new situation.

I've been dating this guy for nearly a month now. He lives an hour away so we've visited each other once a week since we met. Last week he came to my house and we had spaghetti and movies, and tomorrow I'm staying the night at his house.

I'm really thinking about having sex with him. I even got a brazilian wax (which I will NEVER do again) to prep myself. I feel that physically I am ready, but mentally I am not so sure. I am a virgin. Most of my thinking towards my first time is that it will end badly or I'll cry, why, because I'm a pessimist and I think of every worst case scenario.

There is nothing about him that puts me off. But I'm not sure if I am in love with him, and most people say that I should wait to be in love for it to be really special. I feel like I need to get to know him more, we haven't even made out yet, but I also would like to have sex.

So I'm stuck. Waiting can't hurt, I know that, but there's no reason for me not to besides that I feel like I don't know him well enough even though we've been dating for a month. I'm also nervous in general. It's my first time, and I don't want to regret it, but I don't see how I could regret it unless we break up or it was too soon. I feel so conflicted.