No, you are not being selfish. You have reasonable expectations and he is not meeting them. You should never chase a guy around. I am a little old-fashioned in that it is OK for a woman to make a guy chase her around a bit - not too much, but to some extent, but not vice versa. Making guys chase you around keeps them in good physical shape so I view it as a public service .

I think you should get Mirena IUD, which is almost as effective as sterilization, reversible, protects against cancer a bit, and stops menstruation in 30% of women as a normal side effect and it is nice not to deal with tampons and pads. I am very happy with it and it makes periods painless for those women who continue to have periods. It has been in use in the States for many years and in Europe for much longer, has a great safety and efficacy record, and will allow you to really think well about permanent/irreversible decisions without having a deadline. You are now upset because he is not behaving nicely, and it is better to postpone making irreversible decisions until you are not upset.