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Originally Posted by Meisjes
Recently a close friend of mine died due to taking too much of the medicine he was given for permanent pain. ......... I unknowingly might have encouraged him to do so. I have many regrets about our conversation that day. He was a very dear friend. Whatever my view on suicide is/was, I feel it is not a view to use in helping someone else set themself up. I realize that my friend is no longer suffering and am happy for him in that regard but it simply wasn't my place to say what I did. I never thought about it that way until I learned he was gone. I never thought he or anyone else for that matter might put that much weight on what I said. I will never discuss suicide with another vulnerable person in the way I did that day, that much I know for sure.
Suicide never makes things better for the people left behind. It’s hell. If people could understand the value of themselves.....abusers don't make that easy but it doesn't change a person's value - which is a great value.
At times I struggle with suicidal thoughts/ideation.
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Once a person makes up their mind, it really doesn't matter what you say, and as in this case, he didn't end his life after "calling you for help".... if that's what you think he did... he waited. He may have felt you gave him permission so to speak, but you are not at fault imo, in any way. A person doesn't usually reach out for help once they've fully decided imo.
For many people it isn't about those left behind... imo... the thinking is "if those people really cared they WOULD be in" my life.... so why care about them if I'm still suffering... why stick around in suffering when they can't care less about "me"... (this is common thinking which is why I'm posting it.) But yes, those who can keep some type of connection, even if only mental or spiritual, with someone they love... suicide is less likely.
I've always considered suicide an option, and while it's only purpose (the thought) is to help me realize that IF life ever really stayed unlivable, I wouldn't have to put up with it (the pain.) However, it really serves no purpose as an option, and may in fact prevent full acceptance that I'm worth more than that?