Thank you both. I agree. This is what I try to keep telling myself that even with me taking the money that still gives her over 100 k in profit alone. All this does is make the split equal. Her viewpoint is that she used the money to help my brother and sister out. Again though. I've been so conditioned to think that standing up for myself and not sacrificing for everyone else makes me a bad person. Again though. I think we teach people how to treat us and because our relationship was never good and I was much more independent and self sufficient - she took it as I never said thanks. My reasoning was - well you never have given me anything to be grateful for. With the exception of my home. But I've worked and paid rent without any assistance since I was 16 and still managed to buy my own home, vehicles and raise my daughter 100% as a single mother.
I just feel very guilty and anxious, but still understand that her having the money is more of a control issue than anything else. It's illogical that she wouldn't have enough money when shes worked and never had to pay bills, rent , food, clothing and was able to bank all her money for her retirement. I'm sure she's helped my brother and sister out. But the difference to me is : they didn't own and pay for an investment home. I just want what's mine to invest into my daughters education fund.
I just wish I didn't feel so badly about it.