Its odd... not sure how to take it but the silence is kicking in... I just have conversations in my head now... the rest of the time I just say what people want (or I think they want ) to hear...

It doesn't make a difference just to say things outloud.. it doesn't change the circumstances... basically if you are having a problem of any kind with another person ( H or kids or T or anyone) you have 2 choices after you ask them to do something differently and they don't...a) accept that they won't change or do it differntly or b)decide that you are not putting up with it and leave.... So I'm mentally leaving off in my head...

talking about it does not make a difference...