I'm not, Alice, and I'm not sure you meant to post this in this forum, but just thought I'd offer my insight on the subject, if you're interested. If I were to talk to my husband's therapist, I would assume that the therapist would tell my husband that I call and at least summarize what my concerns were. If my husband were to talk to my T, I would fully expect my T to tell me. I expect my T to be on MY side and not keep secrets from me, including the fact that my partner had called to express concerns.