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Originally Posted by Soups
Don't you have any close friend you can talk about this? Haven't you ever come across anyone who is interested in you or because of insecurity you showed cool shoulder to them?
Getting emotionally attached has risk of getting hurt, so be sure who the person is. You need to take some risk to find yourself. No risk No gain.
All the Best. May God soon make you meat your soul mat
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No, I don't have any friends to talk about this, at least not in real life. There were probably a couple of people who might have liked me a little, but I didn't feel safe around them. One apparently took me out on a date (I don't assume going to a movie with someone as automatically a date unless it's said) and tried to make a move on me and then I got freaked out. Even if I knew it was a date, I don't want to get physical in any way on the first date. And another guy (more recently), I just kind of got weird feelings about him, like I'm afraid to be alone with him...and I think he was just looking for someone to go to concerts with (which is fine). He's likable, but I just feel uncomfortable since he knows I've been physically weak (and am in physical therapy, getting better now) and he's strong. I don't like feeling like I wouldn't be able to defend myself. I don't know—all I know the amount of fear was abnormally strong.
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Originally Posted by Soups
Feeling to give pleasure as a duty can harm you mentally. You tend to make yourself as an object instead of human. Love does exist, when you are ready to hurt yourself for someone else's happiness, that is where the love is. From your talks, I can see that you are very loving person and care for others.
May you find your soulmate who is ready to understand you and love you.  |
This is probably going to sound dumb to anyone with more experience, but if what you're saying is true (and it makes sense to me), then if you're willing to hurt yourself for someone wouldn't that mean giving pleasure would be a duty? In my case, giving pleasure may be hurting myself for someone. Maybe "hurting myself" is the wrong terminology, because it really makes me think of self-harm.
I also feel that people in general know me as an object and not as a person with the whole being appreciated more as an artist and not a person.