has happened to me too. for me it was a way to gauge whether they really wanted to be friends with me. If I could figure that out, I wouldn't get hurt as badly if I could control the relationship this way. I'd be able to predict the end of the relationship and withdraw before it happened or become very dramatic and try not to let it end. I even willed them to call within an hour of starting to think of them calling. it was sick - I had it bad. Eventually though I realized, it just doesn't matter who initiates first or next or last. We can have relationships that are spontaneous and not make life miserable for ourselves and those around us.