My wife and I have been married for 3 years and together for 5. The entire time we have been together she has never been able to have an orgasim. We have tried vibs, my fingers, her fingers and nothing works. Her ex husband of 22 years was a control freak and told her that sex was for the male and not the female. It was the womans job to satisfy the man and that the woman should get no pleasure from having an orgasim. We have talked about it and she knows I dont feel that way. She gets very turned on and gets so close to orgasim but at the last second her brain takes over and she stops and just cant get over the top.. I will always be patient and will wait but is there anything I can do to help her?