Hi Lee, I really appreciate your response and it's a lot like other responses I've been getting from friends and family members. It's very tough because our relationship ended so drastically and I never lost the feelings I had for him even under the circumstances. I agree that therapy could be the solution but even with all the red flags I feel like there may be more to him. I know that if i get myself involved with him again this could end badly but what if we agreed to go to therapy together? He is a good guy. He's loving, devoted and caring but he can get nasty and aggresive when things escalate. The choice to not give him another chance makes it that much harder because he is everything else you could ask for in a man besides that major flaw. Could this be fixable or just part of his personality?