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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi dear Lily ~ I'd be very careful Lily. While he MAY be clean & free of pain, what's going to happen when he drinks? And he STILL has anger issues. Just because he's off the drugs doesn't mean that solved his anger issues.
He needs therapy for that. I'm so GLAD you left him after he hit you. No one should put their hands on another human being. You shouldn't have slapped him either.  Perhaps you could use some therapy too. Violence only begets more violence. And it solves nothing! Perhaps therapy would help you choose someone who is UNLIKE this guy -- so you wouldn't make the same mistake twice.
I really don't think that going back with this man is a good idea. You left him for a good reason. The anger is still there. Find someone UNLIKE him, who will treat you with gentleness, respect and who will love you. I do think therapy might help you. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee |
Hi Lee, I appreciate your response which is pretty much the same response I've been getting from friends and family. I know the best thing I should do is stay away and I agree about seeing a therapist. The relationship ended so drastically that I never lost feelings for him. He's a good person. He's devoted, caring and loving. He's all the things you would want in a man but he has that one major flaw which is to get angry and aggressive when an argument escalates. Is there a chance that going to therapy together might help the situation? I know that no one is perfect and this particular reason should be enough not to involve myself in any type of relationship with this person but what if that can change? Or is this something that's unfixable and part of his personality?