It was so so hard for me to cut off contact with my former T. I initially made a decision to not contact him for 30 days, no matter what. No phone, no e-mail, no nothing. Two of my friends both decided to give something up for 30 days too, and it helps knowing that they are supporting me in that way...it gives me strength when I just don't think I can make it.

I miss him terribly, and I try not to put myself in situations that trigger me. I only read certain threads on PC, I put away all of the gifts he gave me/notes he wrote to me so I wouldn't be looking at them all the time, and I try to stay focused on what's in front of me and not what's behind me.

Some days are harder than others, and the first couple of weeks were excruciating. But as more time passes, and there is more space between where I am now and and our last contact, it gets a little easier.

We had almost daily contact too, for five years. It's a big loss. Piling an unethical termination (mine) or a relationship without any boundaries (yours) on top of the loss makes it even harder, because there is so much anger to process as well.

One day at a time. You can do it, and the more support you can get around it - here and IRL - the better.