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Old Mar 23, 2013, 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted by healed84 View Post
My T and I just talked about this yesterday. I am so detachted from my trauma emotionally, that even when reading the story that I wrote of one event I was just a one-toned emotionless voice. My T agrees so feeling those emotions in a safe enviroment will help get past some of my issues stemming from the trauma. My T's suggestion for doing this is.. Writing out what I would say to that 10 year old girl who was traumatized.. Writing to her like it was the time of the incident. Then, I am sure he will ask me to read it!

Just an aside, and really my opinion.. I do think it is healthy to heal and get past trauma.. but that does not mean you have to forgive. Which is weird for me to say, being a Christian and most of Christiany is based on the concept of Forgivness.
I really like your idea of writing as if you were speaking to your 10-year-old self. I think I may try that.

On the subject of forgiveness though, I too am Christian and find it absolutely essential to forgive. Not forgiving someone is equivalent to holding a grudge against them, and when you're holding a grudge, you're giving that person a lot of control over your emotions. And when you're not the one in control, healing those emotions will never happen.

Forgiveness is awfully difficult. But it absolutely needs to happen.
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