Purple Daisy, how in the world did you meet these "friends"? They are not your friends, frankly. Their rudeness is just gross, and they aren't too swift intellectually, either. They should know better than to drive across someone's lawn or to be critical of your recipes. That's just
uncalled for.

I would make sure that I found other friends who are consideratve and kind. They are out there, and you're knocking yourself out to please a crowd, not a group of friends.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

You don't need to start over. Just get into a group at a small, friendly church and
get to know a few of the pleasant, quiet people who are considerate and thoughtful.
That will easily work for you with your sensitivity, and you will proably fit right in.

You don't deserve to have anyone treat you like this. This group just doesn't know
how to be friends. They're competetive, critical, rude, and ignorant. You far surpass them in your efforts and attempts at friendship.

Forget them and get new and good friends; you deserve good people on your side.

What you describe is almost unbelievable.