Hey Melissa,

Please don't take the reaction from your mother and turn it around to harm yourself. It is tempting to use that as proof there is something wrong with you. Put the stick down. There is no reason to use it to beat yourself up. She may have been shell shocked, felt guilty or any number of other reasons. The initial steps you take now are some of the most difficult...keep walking at your pace, but don't stop.

Those of us molested by women know what you are feeling. We know that each tentative step you take feels like you are going to lose your footing....you won't. As you build that bridge of trust with your therapist that is so necessary, trust your timing. You will have someone to take the journey with you.

The shame you are feeling doesn't belong to you......it belongs to the woman who molested you. She hurt you, turned around, walked out the door and left the shame she should have felt with you. You have carried it for way to long..... you need to give it back to her. It will take time and courage, you have already started the process.

You have a lot of sisters on this forum who have walked where you now walk and we are willing to go with you as you move forward. Always remember you are not alone. We are here for you.

Take gentle care,

Sabra