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Old Mar 23, 2013, 11:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon View Post
Why don't you explain to him why you don't want him to know all of your past? Or all of your private thoughts?

Honestly, if he really likes you he will stick around. If you don't explain to him why you're shutting down/avoiding him hes going to think you're not interested in the relationship. It may also help to plan activities for dates so they don't revolve around being physical. You can reveal parts of yourself through the dates.
The reason I haven't explained to him so far is because a) we still are in the early dating stage, and b) when I've tried to explain this to guys before, they've left. It seems they weren't interested in taking a bit longer to get to know someone. Also, he may not understand - he's a real extrovert, and it's been my experience that extroverts don't usually understand why introverts hesitate to share everything with them immediately.
Thanks for this!
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