My son was the same and we worked hard together at gentle exposure to get him used to them. He will never like them, but can now live with them without feeling its a major problem. Do you have someone that can help you? I don't think it is necessarily a psychological problem although a therapist maybe able to help. Other people may also be able to help you if that avenue is not possible. And earplugs are fab. I often have to wear them due to sensory overload and its not a problem.