Hi "Zob" ~ Bless your heart -- you are NOT pathetic!!! You have plenty of time to find someone. You're still pretty darn young!

I think you're still grieving the loss of the marriage. We DO grieve when we divorce. We either grieve for the person we lost, or we grieve the marriage itself. But we DO grieve! And just because it's been 5 years doesn't mean you should be over it by now. Some people don't know HOW to grieve.

Why not see a grief counselor? They can help you get over the grief that you're feeling. Or as Shezbut suggested, see a therapist. You may have other issues that are keeping holding you back. Either way, you need someone to talk to. If you choose a grief counselor, you can get one thru your local Hospice. They have some great ones. Just call and ask for an appt. to talk to one. I'm not sure about the fees, but I don't think it's very expensive. And if you choose the therapist, talk to your doctor and he'll refer you to a good therapist. He will know who to send you to.

I wish you the very best! You deserve the best!! You deserve someone who will love and care and be loyal and respect you! God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee