hi. i am pretty sure my husband is classified as verbally abusive and while in the past his rages were few and far between, lately he has them like every month sometimes even twice. usually it starts with something like telling me i'm stupid and why he married someone so stupid and i leave him alone as i've learned in the past that's the best thing to do but lately even leaving him alone seems to make it worse. he stews and stews and begins to tell me how i'm a bad person and that he can't stand being with me and that he wants a divorce. As of the last three years, I tell him fine. if he wants a divorce i am not keeping him with me but then he begins to get evil saying i will get nothing, no money that he will not pay for anything in my life. which even then i'm thinking whatever, fine. this will go on for about a day sometimes two then he calms down and begins to feel bad. We have a six year old and it makes me sad to think that i am putting her in this position. Last week we left the house to eat dinner while he sat and stewed-- he said he didnt' want to go out with us or doing anything but not five minutes after i left he calls and starts yelling at me about how dare I take our child out to dinner. please keep in mind it was his birthday and i tried to get him out of his funk, i offered to pick up something to eat, anything and he kept shutting me out/shutting me down. so now it's like i'm damned if i do (leave him a lone) and i'm damned if I don't (leave him a lone).