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Originally Posted by monarch_butterfly
So one of my alters Anna switches with me frequently when I am with or talking to my BF. At first I thought this was because she likes him. But now I am wondering if it is to protect me from him.
As this evening I went to call him and was nervous because I had to politely confront him about something. And right now I am VERY scared of men in general. (That might be coming from the other alter?) Anyway partway through the conversation Anna popped out. BF and I can be talking about anything... and Anna will come. BF and I are having communication issues and I am trying to figure out if he is belittleing me.
Is it possible for an alter to protect you from a person??? And what do I do? I mean my own BF!!! I want to work through things!! Not just drop him!
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yes it can happen..
the short and simple version is that dissociation is a normal response to anything that triggers someone....a trigger is anything that causes a person to feel emotions..most times people refer to triggers as a negative thing..like abuse, strong emotions, depression, anxiety and others but triggers can be anything...I know someone who was triggered by the fact that they were healing/getting better...
Since dissociation is a normal reaction to triggers, that means switching into alters is a trigger reaction..when a person is feeling/experiencing things they are not able to handle they dissociate and their alters that take care of that trigger comes out to do their job, purpose, reason for being...
example
if going to parties triggers someone they dissociate and the alter who's job/purpose/reason for being is handling going to parties comes out to do that for the person in which they life in..
if the person the alters are in is unable to handle crying then during times when the person they live in dissociates because they feel like crying but knows they are not supposed to, the alter that handles crying comes out and does that for them...
Anna coming out with your BF means ....you got triggered by something, dissociated.....and anna came out to do what ever you could not do for your self.
find out why you got triggered, why you dissociated and you will have your answer to why anna took over and what you need to do to fix it so that you dont dissociate/ switch into anna again with your BF.
my suggestion talk with your treatment providers they can help you discover why you dissociated with your BF and why anna had to do what you could not handle doing.