I found that was very true with our community in many ways. But there are ways of being honest with the one we love and laying out things the way we see them. I have been with my partner 15 yrs this year. Through the years there were times when I needed to do things for me. I wanted her support. Things like flying out to california to spend a week with my mentor who is not only a retired psychologyst but also a nudist ... along with his wife. She thought the guy was loco or something because he was different. But I let her know I was going. I let her know t was something I was doing for me. I went, had a great time, did the whole nudist in the river thing... and came home and told her everything that happened. Later that year he flew in to see me for a few days. And my partner got to meet him. Now everthing is ok and she likes him.

It can be tough for people to learn trust. Keep being firm and stand your ground in a loving way. Tell the truth about things. And allow he to have her emotions and thoughts.

"I hear what you are saying and appriciate your thoughts and emotions. But the fact is I am going to do xyz because I want to do it. I love you. And you can either trust that love or not. It is your choice."