I was in a relationship with a person with OCPD for many years. He had a tender heart and was a very loving person. Mostly, in the relationship, I had to get used to his fears. For instance, if you touched him a certain way, you'd have to do it again and again exactly the same way until he felt it was done exactly right. For some reason, this didn't bother me. I accepted all his peculiarities as if they were the most normal thing in the world, and eventually he stopped exhibiting so much. I still don't understand what's it's like inside the head of a person with OCPD, and probably never will. But I tried to be compassionate, understanding, and kind, without taking anything away from myself. We eventually broke up for reasons not related to his OCPD. He has since married, and according to him, things are going pretty well. He has always been able to hold a job, although he changed jobs a lot, He did have to go to anger management when he found himself faced with a jealous ex-husband. His parents have a hard time with his problem, and I think that's unfortunate, because their 100% support would be beneficial. Don't know if this helps, but it's all I know about it.

Choices, it's all about choices.