You have freedom and choice. It is difficult to leave the birdcage even when the door is open if that is all a bird knows. So it takes courage and strength to make that leap into the unknown.

There are plenty of very secure woman out there who would like a life partner. The funny thing is that they are not usually the type to hang out where the insecure girls hang out. It is not their style.

They are the woman who know they are not perfect, that they are a work in progress, that they have their own baggage, but they still have dignity and pride in who they are. They do not need to be jealous or controlling because those are tools people who are not honest with themselves use to manipulate relationships. These woman enjoy being with other secure woman in healthy relationships which allow both people to grow as individuals.

If my partner found another female friend and she wanted to spend time with her, I would watch to see if the relation was healthy for my partner and nurished her. My focus is not on worry that the other person will "take her away" from me. It is on making sure it is in the best interest of my partner. Now if the new friend was doing things to harm my partner, I would certainly be upset and say something. But it would come from that same state of mind. I want her healthy and safe. And I want her happy. If she did find someone who made her more happy to be with than she is with me, I would cry... but I would be able to let her go and not cling to her because I would only want the best for her.

She is the same way with me. She was curious when I started therapy and she had me take her in to meet my T. But after she met him, she was happy. She wanted to look in his eyes and make sure he was not going to harm me. When she saw he was good, she never said anything else about me going to see him.

You can have this in a relationship. But the first step is to realize you deserve it. And you do. The next step is to remove yourself from the golden cage. The other birds will squak about it because they are fearful. You have left them and what are they expected to do?
Honor their choice to remain in the cage if that is what makes them happy. But do not return to it for them.