And, don't forget there are probably other AA meetings you can go to---you probably don't have to go to the same one all the time. But, it isn't uncommon to re-interpret behaviors in light of our own fears. You can also sit with them, talk to them...act as if you are comfortable and feel welcome---sometimes we can become how we act---change behavior before feelings---feelings and negative thoughts just feed eachother endlessly---I can relate to the feelings/perceptions you express, but I usually find out that is just what it is. Best to you!