I can really relate to what you've written here. But it's how I wish my mother would have treated me. I wish she would have protected me, and I wish she would have chosen to be with me rather than anyone else. So I used to offer it to other people - like my exes - thinking it would make for a happy relationship. Who knows what they were offering me! Pretty much all they had to do was stand there. A real rs with a real person - much scarier.